Are You Really Healing or Just Avoiding What Hurts?
Have you ever asked yourself if you’re actually healing or just avoiding what hurts?
That question wrecked me the first time I sat with it. Because I realized for a long time, I was doing all the “right” spiritual things but still hiding from the root of my pain.
I was journaling. I was manifesting. I was burning sage and saying affirmations.
But deep down, I was still terrified to face the parts of me I didn’t like. The guilt. The grief. The rage. The shame. The memories I buried and the wounds I tried to ignore.
And the truth is, that’s spiritual bypassing. It’s when we use spiritual tools to escape our pain instead of moving through it.
I say this with love, because I’ve done it too. I’ve smiled through sadness. I’ve said it’s all love when I really needed to scream. I’ve tried to vibrate higher when my soul just needed to rest and feel.
Healing doesn’t happen when we pretend everything’s okay.
It happens when we stop pretending.
When we sit with our shadows. When we get radically honest. When we stop fearing the mess and start listening to what it’s trying to teach us.
There is no magic pill, no perfect crystal grid, no sound bath deep enough to replace the moment you finally say to yourself, I’m ready to face this.
That’s where transformation begins.
I’m not saying don’t manifest or meditate. I still do all of that.
But now I do it from a place of truth, not performance.
Now I know light means nothing if I’m scared of my own darkness.
You deserve a healing journey that doesn’t skip steps.
You deserve to know that your shadow isn’t here to destroy you. It’s here to guide you back to your power.
So if you’re tired of surface healing, I see you.
I’m walking this path too.
And I promise your real healing starts the moment you stop running.